Am I toxic?

2021.11.28 07:43 SummerDelcord Am I toxic?

TLDR; Am I toxic for not being able to leave my bf but continuing to try and get him to see my side?
I (25f) have been having the same argument with my bf(27m) for over a year now. We have been in a relationship for a little over 3 years. To make a long story short, we met at low points in our lives and I think I overlooked a lot of red flags due to my own emotional immaturity. The start of our problems began when I started climbing my way out of the hole I was in due to familial circumstances. We had both talked about bettering ourselves for each other but I began to see that I was the only one actually trying to turn my life around. Basically I've reached a point in my life where I see the things he's said he'd do (getting a job, working towards moving in together) aren't going to happen, but then I feel like an AH when I bring it up, because he talks about how Covid hit and before that how he got diagnosed with diabetes (about 4 years ago now) and he's still getting over that. I completely understand how thats life changing, but it's not like he doesn't take care of himself, he's not overweight, he's clean and neat almost to the point of neurotic and is very on top of checking his sugar and eating healthy. He also gets really weird when I bring up marriage or moving in together (even though I'd never commit to anything without him getting a job) He hates taking pictures together, he hates going out places and all he does is complain about how everything is pointless and life sucks. He's very self conscious, he constantly makes comments about how I could do so much better than him, or how bad he is in bed- and I try to do everything I can to reassure him. But it's hard when everything I say is met with an eye roll.
I've tried to be understanding, and talk to him without forcing my ideals down his throat. I think I do a lot to speak his love language but he still hates to take pictures with me, or do little cute things like write a personal note on a birthday card instead of just signing his name, or picking me out something he think I'd like rather than handing me his phone and letting me choose my own present. These are things I do for him and things I've told him straight up would help me feel validated, but I've started to feel silly because it feels like he doesn't appreciate them in the same way I do.
I've tried to break it off many times, I even blocked him off of everything once but he made a new account and promised to change and whatever nonsense and to be honest I worry about him harming himself because he brings that up when I suggest we aren't good together. But the thing is I work really hard, in the time we've been together I've kept my promise. I got an amazing job and my own apartment, and I'm still helping to support my mom and brother while he literally spends his days doing whatever he wants, supported by his parents. He's an only child and lives at home so he really has no reference of what I'm going through, he's told me already he knows he has it good and is going to get the house when his parents pass.
It's a really complicated situation because I do love him, and I just want him to be the best version of himself he can, but I guess if he wanted to, he would? I honestly can't tell if I'm being a nag when I try and talk about our future because its only been three years or if I'm wasting my time at this point? Has anyone been in a similar situation where they worried about the other person's well being? Any advice would be welcome, I'm not trying to break his heart or keep threatening to break up and then just roll over when he says I'm being unreasonable. I think both of us have extremely different views, but hed rather have me than be alone.
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I run both OneDrive and Dropbox privately at home, for redundancy, and have also tried Google Drive in the past.
OneDrive and Google Drive, compared to Dropbox, are vastly inferior in the amount of "file conflicts" and "synchronization errors" they occur. I think I've only had one in total on my Dropbox, as opposed to dozens on GoogleDrive and OneDrive... not to mention i've had 3 different GoogleDrive accounts and in none of them would my Recycle Bin actually empty itself as scheduled (among other weird errors)
TLDR how stable is Synology Drive Cloud on the client and server sides? ٩(。•́‿•̀。)۶
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